Care for Gay, Bi & Queer Men
Private GP, sexual medicine and psychosexual therapy - with someone who gets it.
Finding a Doctor You Can Trust
Perhaps you've struggled to find a GP who really understands you — as a gay, bi or queer man.
Maybe you've had a consultation that left you feeling dismissed, or you've never felt comfortable enough to be fully open about your sex life, your relationships, or the things that actually worry you.
Perhaps you've been given a prescription when what you needed was a proper conversation. Or you have symptoms no one has been able to make sense of yet.
I'm Dr Ben Davis — a GP, sexual medicine physician and COSRT registered sex and relationship therapist and a gay man myself. I offer integrated, expert care where you don't have to explain yourself or manage your doctor's reaction. You just get to be honest.
What I can help with
Sexual difficulties & intimacy Erection problems, changes in desire, performance anxiety, delayed or premature ejaculation, compulsive sexual behaviour, and relationship concerns — addressed through both medical and psychosexual lenses.
Painful anal sex (anodyspareunia) A common but rarely discussed concern. I assess and treat the physical and psychological causes of anal pain during sex, including hypertonic pelvic floor, fissures, proctitis, anxiety and vaginismus-equivalent presentations.
Anal cancer screening & HPV-related disease HPV vaccination, risk-stratified screening for anal dysplasia, and high-resolution anoscopy referral — particularly important for men living with HIV or with a history of HPV.
Cardiovascular & metabolic health Blood pressure, cholesterol, weight, insulin resistance and diabetes risk — including the elevated risks associated with HIV, stimulant use, anabolic steroids and chronic minority stress.
Sexual health & HIV STI screening and treatment, PrEP, and vaccination including HPV, Gonorrhoea and hepatitis.
Mental health & emotional wellbeing Anxiety, depression, OCD, burnout, stress and drug-related mental health difficulties.
Hormonal health Testosterone concerns, thyroid health, fertility, and the effects of performance-enhancing drugs.
Bowel & gut health IBS, inflammatory bowel disease, gastrointestinal infections (shigella, giardia), anal pain, bloating and reflux.
Body image & performance-enhancing drugs Body dissatisfaction, disordered eating, anabolic steroid use — harm reduction, recovery and long-term health effects.
General health & cancer screening Prostate, bowel, lung and skin cancer screening; thorough preventative health checks; complex or unexplained symptoms; ageing and long-term planning.
Why seeing the right doctor matters
Gay, bi and queer men often grow up concealing parts of themselves — from family, employers, and sometimes from healthcare providers too. Over time, this kind of chronic stress — known as minority stress — affects not just emotional wellbeing, but physical health: inflammation, cardiovascular risk, behaviour, and the ways we manage distress.
Many of my patients are high-functioning, outwardly thriving men. The pressures of being gay in the world can still quietly shape patterns of anxiety, substance use, burnout and physical illness — even when everything looks fine from the outside.
Research consistently shows that finding a trusted, affirming healthcare provider improves health outcomes — and may even reduce mortality risk.
I offer that kind of care.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Possibly — but most men find it easier than they expected. In the first few minutes I aim to create a sense of safety and ease, and having spoken with a great many men about their sexual and emotional lives, there's very little I haven't heard before. You won't be judged, rushed, or made to feel that anything you bring is unusual or too much. The appointment is 60 minutes, which gives us time to go at a pace that feels manageable. You're in control of what you share and when — and you can always come back to something in a later appointment if you're not ready to go there yet.
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No. You can book directly through the website — no GP letter or referral needed. Most patients self-refer, and you're welcome to get in touch first if you'd prefer to ask a question before booking.
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Only with your consent. It's good practice to keep your NHS GP informed, but many patients prefer to keep their private care separate — and some come to see me precisely because they don't have an established relationship with an NHS GP. Either way, that's absolutely fine. Where it's helpful, for example for shared prescribing, I can write to your GP with your permission.
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Yes. I have lived experience as a gay man, which informs both my clinical understanding and the way I approach care. My practice in central London is specifically designed for gay, bi and queer men — you won't need to translate your experience for me.
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Yes. Confidentiality would only be broken in very limited circumstances: if I believed you or someone else was at serious risk of harm, if child abuse was disclosed, if you disclosed a planned act of terrorism, or if required by a court. Other than that, everything stays in the clinic.
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Yes. I prescribe tablet PrEP, although not injectable PrEP as yet and provide care for people living with HIV, although I'm not an HIV physician and recommend you remain under the care of an HIV specialist team.
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All our STI testing is done same day, so usually you’ll have your results that evening. Very occasionaly it’s a 24 hour turn around.
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Yes — this is one of the things that makes my practice relatively unusual. As a COSRT-registered sex and relationship therapist as well as a doctor, I can address both the physical and psychological dimensions of sexual difficulties within a single clinical relationship, without needing to refer you elsewhere for the therapy side.
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Yes. I see patients from across the UK and internationally for in-person consultations at 23 Devonshire Place, Marylebone, and video consultations are available.
If you're based outside the UK, I'm not able to take you on as a new patient for general medical care online, but I do offer a sexual difficulties consultation service remotely. Please do get in touch if you're living abroad and would like to discuss what might be possible. -
My standard initial appointment is 60 minutes — long enough to take a proper history covering your medical, hormonal, psychological and wider life context, and to leave with a clear plan rather than a rushed impression. If you have a more focused question or a single concern, a 30-minute initial consultation is also available. I only ever charge for the time we actually use, so if we finish early, that's all you'll pay for. You can find full details of appointment types and fees on the bookings page.
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Item descriptionFinding a GP who genuinely understands gay, bi and queer men's health — rather than simply being tolerant — can be harder than it should be. My practice at 23 Devonshire Place, Marylebone is specifically designed for gay, bi and queer men. As a gay man myself, I bring lived experience as well as clinical expertise to every consultation. You won't need to explain yourself, manage my reaction, or translate your experience into language a straight doctor might understand. You can book directly without a referral.
What to expect
My clinic is at 23 Devonshire Place, Marylebone — a quiet, discreet location a short walk from Regent’s Park.
You’ll be welcomed by reception, offered tea or coffee, and given time to settle before your appointment. In the consultation, there’s space to talk through what’s been going on — including things you haven’t felt comfortable raising elsewhere.
Time to talk
We’ll review your medical history and wider life context so I can understand you as a person as well as your health.
Examination
Examination is always optional and fully explained. I’ll check in throughout, and you may pause or stop at any point. You’re welcome to have someone with you if that feels supportive.
Investigations
Where useful, blood tests, urine tests or imaging can be arranged through trusted partner clinics. For sexual or hormonal concerns, recent blood tests are often helpful and can be arranged before or during your appointment.
Referral
I work closely with psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists, pelvic health physiotherapists and sex therapists who are experienced working with gay, bi and queer men.
A Trusted Team Around You
I work closely with Dr Jamie Arkell (consultant psychiatrist), Dr Henry Clements (clinical psychologist), Lucy Allen (Pelvic Health Physio) here at Central Health London and refer to a wider network including psychotherapists, sex therapists, gastroenterologists, cardiologists, pelvic health physiotherapists, dermatologists and general surgeons — all experienced and safe working with gay, bi and queer men.
Dr Jamie Arkell
Consultant Psychiatrist
I'm a private and NHS GP, sexual medicine physician and COSRT-registered sex and relationship therapist with a PhD in men's emotional and sexual health.
I studied medicine at Cambridge and UCL and have over fifteen years of clinical experience spanning general practice, sexual medicine, academia and psychosexual therapy. I hold dual Membership of the Royal College of Physicians and the Royal College of General Practitioners, as well as a Fellowship of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine (FECSM).
As a gay man myself, I bring both clinical expertise and lived experience to every consultation — and a particular commitment to the health and wellbeing of gay, bi and queer men.
Dr Henry Clements
Clinical Psychologist, Professor of Clinical Psychology at UCL
Lucy Allen
Pelvic Health Physio, specialising in gut and anal conditionsConfidential, discreet and non-judgemental care
Everything you tell me is confidential.
Confidentiality would only be broken if I believed you were at serious risk of harming yourself or others, if you disclosed ongoing child abuse, if you were planning an act of terrorism, or if required by a court.
Updating your NHS GP is recommended but always your choice. Where helpful, I can write to request shared prescribing to reduce costs — but only ever with your consent.
