Sex Therapy
Seeking help for sexual difficulties takes courage
But overcoming fear and embracing this journey provides a pathway to greater sexual pleasure, confidence, and more fulfilling sex and relationships
Sex can be full of pleasure: connecting, transcendent, and life-affirming. It has the power to awaken a vital life force within you, deepen intimacy and offer profound insights about yourself and your relationships.
But sex can also be incredibly painful and challenging, provoking anxiety and feelings of shame and isolation.
As a clinical sexologist and sex and relationship therapist, I am here to walk this journey with you. Together, we navigate a path of self-discovery, guided exploration, and healing. My role is to support and guide you, as you uncover a deeper understanding of your sexual and relational world.
What is sex therapy & what happens in sex therapy?
Thinking about starting sex therapy can feel daunting, often stirring up fear and anxiety. But at its core, sex therapy is simply talking therapy that addresses challenges with desire, ‘performance’, intimacy, and other aspects of sexuality. Many people come to sex therapy carrying experiences of shame, so absolutely central is having a safe, judgment-free space where it’s okay to talk openly about sex.
Our journey often starts by exploring your past experiences and envisioning the kind of sexual and relational life you want. Together, we’ll chart a path between those two places, working to understand your desires and what your body might be communicating.
Sex therapy is always conversational—there is no physical contact involved. At times, there may be suggestions for things to try at home, either alone or with a partner, to deepen the process.
Sex therapy can be an exciting and rewarding journey. Most of my clients have never had a dedicated space to explore their sexual selves, finding the process not only enlightening but deeply enjoyable, uncovering insights and bringin about sexual experiences they never thought possible.
What kind of problems can sex therapy help with?
Erection difficulties
Premature & Delayed Ejaculation
Loss of libido & low sexual desire
Worries about Kinks and Fetishes
Worries about “Porn Addiction” & Porn Use
“Sex Addiction” or Compulsive Sexual Behaviour
Sexuality and sexual orientation
HIV & STI Concerns
Open Relationships & Non-Monogamy
Dating & Starting Relationships
FAQs
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This really varies depending on the issue, your history, how much therapy you’ve had before and what we explore in our sessions.
The vast majority of people see significant change in 12 sessions, some need more like 24 sessions, some longer still. 6 months is a reasonable time frame to explore a psychosexual issue.
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It’s often best to start with weekly sessions. If things are going well, often we can reduce to two weekly and then monthly before stopping.
Some people prefer a session. every two weeks to give time to explore things outside the therapy room and to help financially.
Weekly therapy can give momentum and deepen our exploration.
We can navigate what feels right for you together.
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No, I don’t use touch in any psychosexual or sex and relationship therapy session.
Sometimes during intiial assessment I might suggest a medical examination to rule out certain conditions. However I will always discuss this in detail and get your written consent before doing so. You can always decline any examination and I will support you if you don’t wish to have a physical examination. .
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Absolutely. Our sesions are confidential and your privacy is of utmost importance. The content of our sessions will not be shared with anyone else without your consent except in very rare circumstances as required by law, or if I think there is a risk of serious harm to yourself or others.
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Absolutely. Therapy can help you explore your sexual self, build confidence, and prepare for fulfilling future relationships whether you have a partner or not.
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People come to see me both as individuals and with partners.
Early on in any assessment and working together, we’ll discuss whether it would be best for you to continue individual work or do couples therapy.
